Do not feed the trolls!

Do you know what the title means? In blog land or FB land it means simply when someone comments or says destructive, hurtful, uneducated opinions it is best not to engage with them. I normally abide by that rule and usually advise others to do so. But every once in awhile I get a bee in my bonnet and can't resist the urge. This is one of those posts.

I actually have been contemplating what to say or write ever since my last couple of posts. I guess I should explain more in detail about these trolls. There are people out there in cyberland that their only purpose is to take a particular cause or subject and spout the exact opposite stance. For example, a troll will attack say an adoption blog saying how they are against it and then will find an anti-adoption blog and say they are for it. They simply act out to create controversy. There is no rational thought process and apparently get their kicks especially if it hurts someones feelings.

In the adoption world there is a poster from Canada who calls him/herself a variety of aliases or just prefers to post as anonymous. He/She has so much time on their hands they flutter from blog to blog of families looking to adopt or who have already adopted. Apparently they have decided that perhaps even though Joshua is awfully cute (agreed) that he appears to be hard work (disagree). Therefore they have decided to comment that they believe it will be only a year before we send him away. They even think that posting other families situations that it makes it more believable.

Here is the scoop- disruptions as they call it in the adoption world is something that I had never heard before.  Adoption disruption occurs when a family adopts and upon returning home realize that perhaps that child is not a fit for a family. I seriously do not understand the concept as we got Joshua quite young and that has never been an issue. In fact, in our situation it has been quite the opposite. Bottom line is it happens, it is a sad situation for all and in the end it is about the needs of the child that is brought home. Adoption is not for the faint of heart and sometimes I think some people go into it with unrealistic expectations. I am not here to judge that is only something God can do.

Our lovely troll though feels as though they have the ability to judge. What amazes me is that the person who wants their thoughts to be taken seriously can't articulate a clear thought to save their lives. Here is some food for you dear troll- You claim to be thinking of the children and truly hate international adoption- so how about you stop your bitching and moaning and do something constructive? Get off your high horse and hop on your broom to these countries and educate them on the value of ALL children. Blog hopping and commenting does not constitute a job so get one and donate to the orphanages that simply do not have the funds to adequately provide even the basics as a diaper for these children. Instead of bashing adoptive families who are struggling offer support and resources for them. And if you decide that you want to continue then at least have the balls to offer up your real name!

This is the last time that I will feed you troll. See your words do not hurt me. I read your comments and it saddens me that you can't even type legibly or have a logical argument. I was told that is is impossible to have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent. You my dear troll are unarmed and now I must go and kiss my little boy who I love beyond words and be happy that I have him in my life while you will remain obviously alone.